I was thinking back to one of my lectures on stalking. The lecturer bought up a valid point: “if the person doesn’t know they are being stalked, is the act of stalking still considered as bad? I think this relates not only to stalking but other areas of being bad. For example, if the person doesn’t know they are being bitched about or a person doesn’t suspect that their partner is cheating on them.
I guess one could say that the bad deed is acceptable if the person isn’t aware of it happening because no harm is done to that person. Their sense of security isn’t affected and yes I can see how this is a valid point. However, whether the person knows that the bad thing is happening to them or not doesn’t excuse the fact that the act is down-right wrong. For example, stalking is wrong because it’s an invasion of someone’s privacy. That person didn’t ask to be stalked and most likely does NOT want to be stalked. Besides, there is also that enormous risk that the stalked person will find out about the stalker. The physical and mental damage will then happen to that person and because of the stalker; the unwanted nightmare will be an inherent part of that person’s life.
The same goes for cheating. I think I wrote about this in an earlier blog entitled “Infidelity in About Adam”, which discusses the goings on behind the protagonist’s back and how she never finds out. At the end of the film, she marries the cheater and lives happily ever after. But imagine being married to someone and then few years down the line, you found out that they slept with someone or a few people while seeing you. I can imagine how painful it would be to have that trust violated.
I guess one could say that the bad deed is acceptable if the person isn’t aware of it happening because no harm is done to that person. Their sense of security isn’t affected and yes I can see how this is a valid point. However, whether the person knows that the bad thing is happening to them or not doesn’t excuse the fact that the act is down-right wrong. For example, stalking is wrong because it’s an invasion of someone’s privacy. That person didn’t ask to be stalked and most likely does NOT want to be stalked. Besides, there is also that enormous risk that the stalked person will find out about the stalker. The physical and mental damage will then happen to that person and because of the stalker; the unwanted nightmare will be an inherent part of that person’s life.
The same goes for cheating. I think I wrote about this in an earlier blog entitled “Infidelity in About Adam”, which discusses the goings on behind the protagonist’s back and how she never finds out. At the end of the film, she marries the cheater and lives happily ever after. But imagine being married to someone and then few years down the line, you found out that they slept with someone or a few people while seeing you. I can imagine how painful it would be to have that trust violated.
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